Let It Go

Don’t use your child as a way of hurting your ex.  A child is a human being.  He or she is not a pawn.  It's not the child's fault that the relationship didn't work out.  Wether it's your ex's fault or not, let it go.  Sometimes, relationships don't work out.  Some people handle it badly when they realize that a relationship is not right.  That sucks.  But it doesn't mean that the person "owes" you for the breakup (other than child support), or that the person should never be allowed to see his/her child again.  Withholding visitation or refusing to pay child support, passing messages through the child, or trying to poison the child against the other parent is not a good thing to do. 

When you use your child to make your ex's life miserable, you risk creating someone who is as much of as asshole as you are, as they’re learning that it’s OK to be controlling, petty, selfish, and cruel.  We do not need more people in this world who are petty, controlling, and selfish.